Summary of the Four Agreements by Readtrepreneur Publishing

Summary of the Four Agreements by Readtrepreneur Publishing

Author:Readtrepreneur Publishing
Language: eng
Format: epub
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Publisher: Readtrepreneur Publishing
Published: 2018-06-28T00:00:00+00:00


4: THE THIRD AGREEMENT

Don’t Make Assumptions

Oftentimes, we tend to assume many different things. We think they’re true and this can actually cause real problems. We come up with all kinds of assumptions, misunderstand things, take them personally, and end up making unnecessary drama in life.

We seem to be too scared to clear things up, this is why we formulate guesses and believe we’re right about them. We even defend them and make sure that others get it wrong. Assumptions only bring suffering. Just ask questions. It’s always a better option.

The mind produces chaos, making us misunderstand or misinterpret a lot of things. We don’t clearly see things as they are. We only notice what we wish to notice and even form things out of our imaginations. When we can’t understand certain things, we assume that it means something and we become disappointed when it’s not what we have expected at all.

When it comes to relationships, our assumptions usually cause problems. We often assume that there’s no need to say anything because our life partners know exactly what we’re thinking. They are aware of the things we want, and they’ll do everything we want. If they fail, we feel hurt. Making assumptions only result in several arguments, misunderstandings and difficulties.

Our mind works in a very interesting way. We have this constant need to explain, justify, and figure out everything just to feel secure. The mind simply can’t explain everything, which is why we come up with assumptions. It doesn’t matter if we get the right answers because the answers alone put us out of harm’s way.

Making assumptions satisfy our demand to be informed and it gives us no reason to communicate. We assume even when we hear things that we can’t quite comprehend because we’re afraid to raise questions.

We usually make assumptions quickly and unconsciously because we have agreed that this is an acceptable form of communication. We tend to believe in something so hard that we even end up ruining our relationships just to support our own perspective.

We think that other people view life the same way as we do, that’s why we hide our true selves when we’re surrounded by other people. We believe that they’ll judge us or blame us like we do with ourselves. We reject ourselves even before we get rejected by others.

We also tend to assume a lot about ourselves. We either underestimate or overestimate our abilities because we haven’t really taken some time to look at ourselves, ask questions, and answer them. Maybe it’s time to be more truthful about the things we really want.

When you like someone and enter into a kind of special relationship, you often explain several things that you like about that person. You may even assume that when you love that person, it’ll change him or her. However, people change not because of you, but because it’s what they want to do. Love isn’t meant to be justified. When you really love someone, you’ll accept him or her without forcing them to change.



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